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The Third Degree
What is your new man really like? Generous or stingy? Faithful or faithless? An
imaginative lover or a selfish one? Read on and find out how to get past the outer layer.
You’ve just met this guy who is too gorgeous for words. He seems „special".
You’re definitely interested in him and he’s certainly acting like he’s
interested in you. He’s really turning on the charm, coming across as a real
gentleman. Or maybe his tack is the guy who’s down on his luck, but is bravely
maintaining a sense of humour. At any rate, he’s trying his best to impress. He tells
you everything about himself except for the truth. He just thinks his real self should
stay hidden for a while. If you don’t share his opinion, try these subtle
interrogation techniques:
Does he have a girlfriend?
He’s hidden away everything that might expose him except for one thing: his
self-confidence. A man who has a girlfriend or wife at home is very sure of himself. After
all, he already has his base. Now, he just wants to conquer some outposts. He is charming,
witty and never loses his poise. A single man on the other hand is a little unsure of
himself. He has more to lose.
Is he a good lover?
Watch his body language. Is he nervous or calm? A tense man doesn’t normally have the
time for tender caresses and won’t be great guns in bed. On the other hand, a guy who
is too laid back, tends to be lazy. The ideal man should be vital and yet have an inner
calm.
Are his hands like spades? He can probably grab you easily, but these hands were not made
for soft touching. Does he have very fine artistic hands? This means he can be very
gentle, but could be oversensitive. How does he drink? Does he gulp down his beer Iike
John Wayne or does he sip his drink with appreciation? There aren’t many men who are
true connoisseurs, but it’s these that make good lovers. Ask him about his hobbies.
Does he like to sit on the beach watching the waves?
Is he faithful?
A faithful man has a steady, strong presence. He doesn’t break eye contact even if
you gaze at him for a long time. He doesn’t just look at you when he’s listening
to you; he looks at you even when he’s the one doing the talking. An unfaithful man,
on the other hand, can’t keep his eyes from wandering around the room. Not because
he’s watching out for his next victim, but because he feels uncomfortable with the
intimacy of eye contact. And men who feel closed in easily tend to be unfaithful.
Ask him what his favourite colour is. Blue? Pity, because a man who is partial to blue is
evasive. A man who is always somewhat distant and disappears into the blue when he’s
chasing after another woman. Red? OK, the guy’s full of vitality and doesn’t run
away from conflicts. The snag is that he really needs that conflict, needs the feeling of
conquest. Green? That is good. But rare.
Is he generous?
The guy is obviously reasonably off; he dresses smartly, he travels, he’s got a
decent job. But does he have any money left to spend on you? When he asks you out, does he
do all the ordering? He’s probably stingy. A generous man lets you order what you
want.
To find out more, ask him for advice. Tell him you want to buy your parents a present.
Does he have any suggestions? If he comes up with some ideas, great. He’s obviously
the kind of person who wants to do things for others. You, for instance. At the same time,
you’ll find out if he has any imagination. Another possibility is to start
complaining about the prices of things in the shops. If he really gets going on this one,
he’s likely to budget your needs.
What does he think about women?
Any man will come out strongly for women’s rights when he’s in the process of
wooing. His true colours will only show in time. If you listen carefully right at the
beginning, you may catch the machismo behind the mask. Ask him about his favourite films.
If he likes Westerns and old Hollywood movies, he obviously thinks women should be in the
kitchen, whilst real men are out swashing and buckling. Van Damme fans know that their
male role is no longer unchallenged, but they want to get it back. If he goes for the more
intellectually oriented Jodie Foster type movie, he probably means what he says about the
woman’s role.
Ask him what character he would like to portray? You’ll be able to make out easily
what he thinks of his manhood. And if he asks you what role you would like to depict,
throw the question back at him: In what part would you see me? And why? That way
you’ll find out how well he really understands women.
© Louise Jakob 1999
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| Louise Jakob discovered the internet whilst living on the
information desert island of Seychelles and, being the info junky she is, took to the
medium like a duck to water. She now lives in Switzerland and has a webzine going for
European women (http://www.europeanwoman.net). Louise can be contacted at
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